That's Ms. Goodloe to you...

You know what I have realized lately more and more is that there are very few people who are comfortable just being them.  They have to be identified as something or characterized by something.  But I guess a lot of that is societal.  You know, growing up I was R & B’s daughter, then I got into school and I was M’s little sister and D’s big sister…I was so and so’s bff or girl friend or baby sitter… but when do you become you?  In college it was the same, I was a freshman, I was the girl who fell down the stairs (not funny!), I was the class President, cheerleader, a member of T.I.P, the Staceys’ roommate, so and so's ex-girlfriend, a college graduate, so many labels!…

Now, I still have some of my original labels but the ones people worry about a lot these days are the letter labels before a name, the Miss, Ms. or Mrs. labels.  I guess we all go through a time when we worry about these letters, but over the course of the last few years I have realized a lot about myself and my labels.  For so many years I was kind of resentful that I was always “so and so’s something” and never me…but the thing is, that it took all of those things to make me who I am.  All of those little niches carved me into who I am.  Being R and B’s daughter was how I learned how to be a worker and to love.  Being M and D’s sister gave me plenty of protection from bad dates in high school and beautiful nieces and nephews now.  And being the Staceys' roommate gave me some of the craziest nights I could have ever imagined but two of the best friendships I could have ever thought possible.  All of my labels were relationships or accomplishments or things about my character that I wouldn’t change because they have made me who I am today. 

While I may have wanted to trade in my Ms. for the Mrs. before, it was never right because I was never right.  I have learned more about me with each day that passes.  I grow each day.  I stumble and scrape my knees and have all out busted my face a few times, but with each fall, I know that I am closer to being who I am supposed to be for the man I am supposed to be with.  God has someone amazing for me and I know that I will be ready for him when its time.

So I guess to answer the question as to when you become you…I think you become you when you realize that every aspect of your life including your faults and labels have made you who you are…so, I guess that means I am me. :)

Have a GOODloe Day.