Sometimes Goodbye is a Second Chance

I have been thinking a lot about life, love and moving on in the last few weeks. And I keep coming back to a few words from a song that a friend told me to listen to when I was going thru troubles last year. Just over a year ago I was split up from my boyfriend at the time and my friend D (protecting the innocent) and his girlfriend were having a hard time and he introduced me to the song Second Chance by Shinedown. At the time it didn’t hit me what those words meant because I was so set on us getting back together, which we did, and it wasn’t until after our official end it all break off in October that those words started really meaning something. Actually, it wasn’t until much after that that they really started meaning something but break ups take time to heal and transform us.

I have started thinking about all the really significant breakups I have had. I think I have had three that really took a toll on my heart…bet you little former breakers of my heart are wondering if you made the cut, lol, sorry not telling you who! They were the relationships that really formed my opinions of what I want and don’t want in my future mate and that with each of them breaking my heart; it was a new start for me…a Second Chance. Some of them pulverized my heart repeatedly in some cases, and I loved them so much that I just kept going in for seconds and thirds and fourths. And I remember when I was younger I heard an adage and I believed it then, “Those who make you cry aren’t worth your tears and those who are, won’t make you cry.” What a crock. People make mistakes. The people we love and love us will hurt you, not necessarily intentionally but it will happen, and believing that they won’t is setting yourself up for hurt.

As much as I hate break ups, the best part about them is that it just means that God is setting up something better for you. Sometimes Goodbye is a Second Chance for God to say, "See I let you have the reigns last time and look where it got you…now sit back and let me give you what I have in store for you."…It’s going to be a pretty sweet deal if you will just wait on it, just wait on Him.

Switching gears slightly…I have thought about the times that I have left what was comfortable to do what I thought was right for me. And you know what…it’s not always easy but you have to take chances in life or you are going to look up when you are 70 and say what happened to my life? Sometimes you have to say Goodbye to the easy things, to things that keep you in your rut. Second chances are awesome and you never know where they will take you . I’m not saying quit your job in the middle of a recession, but look at your life and consider what is working and what isn’t and what you really WANT… are your wants lining up with what’s working or are you just doing what’s working because you have always done it? Stop settling…take charge of your life, we only get one, but if we handle it right you can get a Second Chance, but not if you wait too long.

Love God, Love Others, Love Yourself…

Have a GOODloe Day!